The woes of Internet dating websites.

So, I'm a single 23 year old female looking for a relationship.

I do not like meeting guys at clubs or bars (but I have). Any establishment that is dark and filled with liquor is not an extremely conducive environment in finding a potential mate.

I find myself on my computer the majority of my free time. Therefore, I thought of Internet dating. I'd been seeing countless commercials on television about eharmony and match.com. I mean those people on television looked extremely happy and ecstatic that they found their mate on an Internet dating site, I decided to give it a whirl.

First up, match.com (it was the cheaper of the two). I filled out my profile, paid a nominal fee of 34.95 and started searching. I thought that the men would fall into my lap, but unfortunately NO! Then, I decided to search for the men intently. It was fun searching the profiles and seeing the type of men that were also searching for the same thing as myself. I felt a sense of solace while searching and confidence that I would indeed find someone for me!

The first couple matches were alright. Nothing that really sparked my interest. Then, there was this mildly attractive male. We began chatting and all he could talk about was how 'sexy' and 'hot' I was. He wanted to talk about SEX and only SEX. I tried to sway the conversation to another direction, but he was extremely persistent in only talking about, SEX. Of course I had to end the conversation.

After all, while sex is very nice that was not the reason why I signed up with match.com. I wanted to find my potential soul mate.

The search continued. Then, I met another mildly attractive fellow. We began talking and messaging one another. It was pleasant. But, I have to be honest there was no fire. I did continue to talk to him & even went out for drinks. Let's just say it was interesting. The man showed up in a suit at TGI Friday's! But, that didn't turn me off, it was just a bit odd. There was no chemistry, no spark, no zest to long and be with the man. He was nice & I was certain he would make a good friend. A couple of weeks later he did want to go on another date with me, at first I was going to go, maybe I would like him more. But, deep down inside I knew I wouldn't. I later told him that I don't think we should see each other romantically any longer & we both went our separate ways.

A couple of weeks later my subscription of match.com ended & I no longer wanted to continue with that train wreck ...

Next on the menu, eHarmony. I thought for sure this would find me an everlasting relationship. I mean those commercials would make any sane person gag, but deep down I wanted to be one of those couples! The price : 59.95 per month. It was a lot more money, but hey, if I find my potential husband money should not and will not matter, right.

Now, eHarmony is a bit more intricate and difficult with the site. Looking back on it, still not 100% sure if I did it right. But, I still went for it, I was all in. Once again, very confident that I would find someone.

For those of you reading this I strongly do not recommend eharmony.com. That website does take the people you would be most compatible with, which is fantastic. However, the getting to know process is extremely lengthy and can get VERY annoying. After all, I just wanted to chat to the guy to see if he was a good fit for me.

Eharmony was a worse experience for myself, than match.com.

So, what do I do? Try chemistry.com or myspace?

We shall see ...

But, what I do know. I was not prepared to pay another $50 to eharmony to find out. No WAY!