And the President Is ...

President-Elect Barack Obama will be our reigning 44th President of the United States of America.

What a great feat for America, not for African-Americans, simply for the nation.

I can still recall the tears and the esteemed amount of joy I felt on November 4, 2008 as I watched Barack Obama, practically sweep, with the Electoral votes. It was amazing, really! I remember sitting at my friends house and thinking to myself, "Is this really happening? Is this really happening within MY lifetime?" I remember being a young girl, around 6 or 7, and my father telling me, "You can be anything you want. But, you can't be a President!" I can now look at my father and say, "Yes, I can" (wow, that was cheesy) That is how I feel. I feel very blessed to be an American to be apart of history. For the first time in history we had a female & an African-American running to be the Democratic Presidential candidate.

Granted this was over a month ago, but still when I reflect on the journey I sit in awe and amazement.

I didn't think it was possible, my father was definitely skeptical. But, in my heart I knew that my generation (the 20 somethings) would pull through and we completely did, with a vengance.

Throughout my short-time on this Earth there have been many skeptics as to the age-group that I am gladly apart of. They (politicians, news anchors, comedians, etc) have poked fun at our 'laziness', but with this election we essentially flipped them 'the bird'. Whether the 20-somethings voted for McCain or Obama, we still voted and I am proud of that. My only hope is that our generation continues the fervor with voting and being in tune as to what is going on in this great nation.

I have to admit that since the election and also because of the financial strain of this great nation, I have been addicted to CNN. Prior to these accomplishments and squabbles I was not interested in anything aside from my personal 'bubble' of worries and wants; including but not limited to MTV, VH1 and Lifetime. I am glad to say that I am now broadening my horizons. Stepping out of my comfort zone and exploring other facets of life.

Should I be thanking Barack Obama? :o)

So there's a guy ...

... don't you like when stories begin like that. I mean, the story can only get better from that point, right?!

Well, this story has way too many ups & downs, more so than what I believe I can handle, unfortunately.

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I began this blog in 2008 & never looked back. Considering it is a new year I decided to go back to my passions and writing being one of those passions. 

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So .... There's a guy. Matter of fact there are a few guys. I'm 29 ... Still single. Even though I have a healthy dating life. And I do mean dating. No sexy time! Often times women confuse dating with sex, which I don't get. Don't you want to get to know someone intellectually before the sexy time happens? I digress ... So I'm talking to a guy currently. Not really dating because we only went on one date. We've been talking for about a month. Here's the funny part. Obviously we are sexy texting (nothing wrong with that). My concern lies because I think he has the impression that I'll be giving it up soon. Which is incorrect. I believe women, heck people in general are sexual beings. 

I don't see the problem with sexy texting. I think it's quite fun. What is my meaning behind talking about this? I suppose to clear the air and say it's ok to sexy text. 

Now, I did say there are a few guys. Thanks to Internet dating I feel like I date at least daily. It's quite sad but I activate these accounts so men can tell me how attractive that I am. On occasion I do end up going to coffee or drinks with them. Nothing serious ever comes of it though. 

Isn't there always a guy that you hold on to?! Well, I have one. We dated for a couple of years & I thought that he was the one. Well, we had a messy break up ... I refer to him as man friend. Simply because he never wanted to commit. Therefore, never got the title of boyfriend. Well, we reconnected after a year and I thought that this was do or die. I was hopeful that we would make it. But, NO! Dang it! Another one bites the dust. Here I go leaving myself open to another chance with him & again I am victim to his tomfoolery! Suppose, I can't blame him for everything but in my head I do! Lol 

But, I write about the past in order to learn & grow. How can I change my past behavior? How can I grow? 

Cheers to 2014

The Democratic Presidential Blood Bath

As most extremely intuitive Americans are aware there is a Presidential race going on & it is quite the race indeed.

First off, I would like to say that I do not declare a Republican/Democrat. Because I feel in some ways I am more liberal than rightest. Now, with that said I feel I lean more toward the left. Therefore, I am looking at the Democratic candidates.

Mrs. Hillary Clinton & Mr. Barack Obama.

Not a fan of Hillary Clinton at all, unfortunately. Initially, when I found out that she was running I was extremely delighted because she is a female, representing the females, it was refreshing. But, when I saw her views on certain issues I discovered that I don't agree with her, A LOT! Then, there are the attacks which I feel are completely unwarranted. Why does she keep attacking Barack Obama? It is getting a little excessive. I mean can't the woman simply worry about her own issues and her OWN campaign without trying to take someone down in the process. In my opinion, it is extremely unnecessary and because of the attacks that she consistently puts towards Barack Obama's campaign, it has actually made me lose hope in her & her ability to be the President of the United States.

Now, Barack Obama (might I say that he is an attractive individual). But, I wanted to look beyond his race, yes he is a bi-racial man (black & white). I wanted to look beyond that and see what the substance of his issues are in his campaign. And quite frankly, I agree with MOST of his beliefs, not all, but most.

I do have a couple of things about Barack Obama, I do have to admit that I think it's admirable that he is not attacking Hillary Clinton back, quite as much as she is toward him. But, it is a bit discerning that he really isn't doing much to retaliate against her. But, oh well, I'm not his campaign manager.

And also, the Pastor that has been well in the media in the last couple of months. I believe that the media is completely blowing this Pastor situation out of proportion and it is a shame. Because instead of worrying about the issues that Barack Obama stands for, all American media seems to be consumed with his Pastor and his EXTREME ways of thinking. I believe that this Pastor is milking his 15 minutes and he just needs to ride off in the sunset, never to be heard from again. I say this simply because he is taking away the shine from Mr. Barack Obama.

I must admit that this Democrat Presidential race is history in the making and I am loving every moment that is unfolding. I feel so excited to be apart of this, an American, who is contributing to possibly see who becomes the next President of the United States. It's extremely liberating.

We shall see later this year who wins ... never know ... it's anyone's race really ....

Just one thing before I end, if by some miracle Mrs. Hillary Clinton does become the official Democrat Presidential Candidate, I would completely vote for her because I would DEFINITELY not want Mr. John McCain (yet another Republican) to be the President of the United States.

The woes of Internet dating websites.

So, I'm a single 23 year old female looking for a relationship.

I do not like meeting guys at clubs or bars (but I have). Any establishment that is dark and filled with liquor is not an extremely conducive environment in finding a potential mate.

I find myself on my computer the majority of my free time. Therefore, I thought of Internet dating. I'd been seeing countless commercials on television about eharmony and match.com. I mean those people on television looked extremely happy and ecstatic that they found their mate on an Internet dating site, I decided to give it a whirl.

First up, match.com (it was the cheaper of the two). I filled out my profile, paid a nominal fee of 34.95 and started searching. I thought that the men would fall into my lap, but unfortunately NO! Then, I decided to search for the men intently. It was fun searching the profiles and seeing the type of men that were also searching for the same thing as myself. I felt a sense of solace while searching and confidence that I would indeed find someone for me!

The first couple matches were alright. Nothing that really sparked my interest. Then, there was this mildly attractive male. We began chatting and all he could talk about was how 'sexy' and 'hot' I was. He wanted to talk about SEX and only SEX. I tried to sway the conversation to another direction, but he was extremely persistent in only talking about, SEX. Of course I had to end the conversation.

After all, while sex is very nice that was not the reason why I signed up with match.com. I wanted to find my potential soul mate.

The search continued. Then, I met another mildly attractive fellow. We began talking and messaging one another. It was pleasant. But, I have to be honest there was no fire. I did continue to talk to him & even went out for drinks. Let's just say it was interesting. The man showed up in a suit at TGI Friday's! But, that didn't turn me off, it was just a bit odd. There was no chemistry, no spark, no zest to long and be with the man. He was nice & I was certain he would make a good friend. A couple of weeks later he did want to go on another date with me, at first I was going to go, maybe I would like him more. But, deep down inside I knew I wouldn't. I later told him that I don't think we should see each other romantically any longer & we both went our separate ways.

A couple of weeks later my subscription of match.com ended & I no longer wanted to continue with that train wreck ...

Next on the menu, eHarmony. I thought for sure this would find me an everlasting relationship. I mean those commercials would make any sane person gag, but deep down I wanted to be one of those couples! The price : 59.95 per month. It was a lot more money, but hey, if I find my potential husband money should not and will not matter, right.

Now, eHarmony is a bit more intricate and difficult with the site. Looking back on it, still not 100% sure if I did it right. But, I still went for it, I was all in. Once again, very confident that I would find someone.

For those of you reading this I strongly do not recommend eharmony.com. That website does take the people you would be most compatible with, which is fantastic. However, the getting to know process is extremely lengthy and can get VERY annoying. After all, I just wanted to chat to the guy to see if he was a good fit for me.

Eharmony was a worse experience for myself, than match.com.

So, what do I do? Try chemistry.com or myspace?

We shall see ...

But, what I do know. I was not prepared to pay another $50 to eharmony to find out. No WAY!